And, a more important question might be--do we as women do this to each other, or do we just do it to ourselves? I hear many a female complain about this or that in relation to their appearance that I too have noticed on them, but unlike them, have not seen it as an imperfection but just a difference--and this difference makes them simply different--beautiful even.
Regan has beautiful hair. It is long, thick, and blonde. She is known for this long, thick mane. She hears all the time how beautiful her hair is--it is uncommon for her to show up anywhere when someone does not comment on it. It has become an important part of her outward appearance--I dare say even her inward value. Did her peers/friends place this perception on her, did I do it as her mother, or did she do it herself?
Today Regan cried over her hair.
As she was weeping the words were muttered: "Isn't this silly, it is just hair, it will grow back!"
Yesterday Regan went to school with this hair:
Today after school she looked like this:
Then she did this:
Now her hair looks like this:
Regan was brave and cut off her beautiful mane. Brave in the fact that so much of her identity was confused with her hair.
Even with the shorter "do" Regan is still sweet and fiery, smart and innocent, loving and sassy--she is still Regan!
Wouldn't it be a great if we valued our differences--or imperfections as much as we value the optimal?
I love Regan's hair even more now, but that is how a mother is--my favorite "do" will be the one she is sporting in the present time--short or long, straight or curly--the one she has when I see her first thing in the morning, or the one she has when she is loving her brothers, or the one she has when she crosses the finish line of her races, or the one she has when she is sitting across from me at the dinner table retracing her day for me.
Why can't we all look through our Mother's eyes and value ourselves--not our appearance?
For the record, her disappointment in her hair was short lasted. She stated to me right before I dropped her off at XC practice after the cut: "Mom, this wasn't about the hair, it is all about running, that is why I did it." Then she trotted off to join her team.
To follow tradition the girls on the XC team cut their hair before Regionals that they run today. The boys shaved their legs--funny that Alec is not missing his leg hair as much as Regan is missing her blonde locks.
On the plus side: Locks For Love will recieve a substantial donation from Regan. Maybe her hair can help some other girl feel better about herself. Hmmm....
